Behavior is governed by relationships and connectedness-not rules, rewards or punishments. It is connection “on the outside” with others which builds neural connections “on the inside” of the brain. That connection must be specific. It must involve eye contact, touch and presence. Presence means we are “in the moment” with our child. It means letting go of all other thoughts or “to-do lists” in our heads and just allowing ourselves to “be” with our child. “When we are present, wisdom comes out of our mouth and kids respond.”
“I Love You Rituals” are activities for adults to do with children and are designed to integrate the entire brain. Our caring touch and loving attention authentically exhibits unconditional acceptance and love for a child.
Be very intentional about eye contact, touch and presence with each of your children every day. It is vital.
Fact: “The skin and the brain evolved from the same embryonic tissue.”
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